“Raising Godly Children” KJV Bible Baptist Preaching (Christian Sermon)

Proverbs 19. The part of the chapter that
I wanted to focus on is beginning there in verse number 18 where the Bible reads, “Chasten
thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. A man of great
wrath shall suffer punishment, for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again. Hear
counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end. There are
many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless, the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand.”
What I want to preach about tonight is the subject of raising godly children. The Bible
says here in verse 18, “Chasten thy son while there is hope,” and the implication there
is that there’s going to come a time when there’s no longer hope.
This is something that you have to do early, and this is something that has to start as
soon as possible. What I wanted to point out just after that is where it says in verse
21, “There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless, the counsel of the Lord, that
shall stand.” There are a lot of people who have trendy ideas about child rearing, and
it seems like they’re constantly coming out with new books and new methods for rearing
children. All of these devices out of the heart of man, of new ways to discipline your
children, or even this new movement that says, “Don’t discipline your children at all, don’t
even replace spanking with a time out, just no consequences, no negative,” and it almost
sounds hard to believe, but there are websites out there promoting this stuff.
There are books that are being written. If you look at the Facebook pages and the websites
that are promoting this stuff, they have hundreds of thousands of people that are buying into
this garbage and following this teaching that says, “Never have a neg- Don’t even tell the
child that they’ve done something wrong. Don’t even say to them, ‘You’ve done wrong.'” All
positive, all positive reinforcement. Some of these people even claim to be a Christian.
I saw this week somebody said something along the lines of- This was on a major website
where all these people are looking to, you know this website for parenting advice. It
literally said, “God never one time in the Bible said that he was disappointed with us.”
Whoa, what Bible are you reading? Think about those passages in the Old Testament where
God just like, “I’m the Lord. Obey me. I’m gonna destroy you. You’re evil. You’re wicked.”
I mean, just on and on. What about when God, in Genesis 6, said that it repented Him that
He’d even made man on the Earth? Sounds a little disappointed. I’m not saying to look
at your child and say, “Hey, you know, it repents me that I even made you,” but the
point is though, for people to just make these crazy, outlandish statements of, “Well, the
Bible never (blank),” and then they just fill in man’s device, man’s understanding.
Tonight I want to show you what the Bible teaches, and I hope you have your Bible in
your hand with you, the King James Bible, to follow along with what’s being taught,
because the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand. Okay.
Congregation: Amen. Pastor Anderson: The Bible says in verse number
20, “Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.”
This world is following the foolishness and shifting sands of man’s philosophy. The Bible
says that anyone who hears the sayings of God’s Word and doeth them is like a man that’s
building his house upon a rock and the floods come, winds come, the rain descends and beat
upon that house, and it will not fall, because it’s founded upon a rock. The foolish man
that does not hear these sayings, does not obey these sayings, is likened unto a man
who builds his house upon the sand. The rain descended, the floods came, the winds blew
and beat upon that house and it fell, and great was the fall of it. Great is going to
be the fall of this generation of children that is raised with this ridiculous attachment
parenting, and positive-only parenting, and unconditional love, it’s so called, when the
Bible says, “He that spareth his rod hateth his son, …
Congregation: That’s right. Pastor Anderson: … but he that loveth him
chasteneth him betimes.” They say, “Oh, no, unconditional love is when you don’t discipline,”
and they do all these crazy methods of just only positive reinforcement, or to distract
the child, you know, with something different. “Oh, let’s do something different,” you know,
“Don’t swing that hammer at your sibling’s face. Let’s find something-” Is there a better
way that you could have done that perhaps? Look, before we get into the scripture, let
me point out another verse for you. This is a key point. I want you to think about this.
You don’t have to turn there, but Matthew 12:33 says this, and this is Jesus rebuking
the Pharisees. He says to them, “Either make the tree good and his fruit good, or else
make the tree corrupt and his fruit corrupt, for the tree is known by his fruit.” You see,
you either have to say the tree and the fruit are corrupt, or you say its a good tree and
it’s bringing forth good fruit. Which one is it? Jesus said, “A good tree cannot bring
forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.” Today, if we want
to know what the right child rearing is, obviously we know that the counsel of the Lord is what
stands, but not only that, look at the product …
Congregation: Exactly. Pastor Anderson: … of right parenting, Biblical
parenting and then look at the product of the world’s parenting, and that’s the fruit,
okay. If the fruit is corrupt the tree is corrupt. If the fruit is good the tree is
good. The reason I bring up this verse is because I have eight children, okay, and I
am constantly out in public being complimented for the behavior of my children. “Wow, your
children are so happy. They smile so much, and they’re so friendly, so polite, so well
behaved.” Here’s the thing. These same people, many of them, hate our religion.
Congregation: Yeah. Yeah. Pastor Anderson: It doesn’t make any sense.
They hate our religion, but they love the product. They’re amazed by the product. It’s
like they don’t understand that these two things go together.
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: It’s not just random chance
that we just happen to have eight kids and they’re all obeying and doing what they’re
supposed to do. It’s just really amazing, like it just happened by accident. That’s
what people think, and that’s ridiculous. Anybody here who has a lot of children knows
that they’re all very different from one another. You can raise them exactly the same way, same
exact home life, same environment, teach them the same things, and they have dramatically
different personalities from one another. They’re all unique, because they have a soul
that’s created by God that’s unique only to them.
You have eight kids. They’re all doing what they’re supposed to do. They’re all minding
their manners. They’re all obeying. It’s not an accident. I remember my pastor back in
Sacramento, he used to tell a story about how he’d be in public and somebody walked
up to him and said, “How is it that you get your children to be so good?” He just said,
“It’s because they’re scared to death.” People would just be horrified. “Oh, man,” you know.
He would do it just to kind of joke with them a little bit. You know what, the Bible does
say that every man should fear his father and fear his mother. That’s what it says in
Leviticus, chapter number 19. All through Proverbs the Bible teaches discipline
through spanking, corporal punishment, the rod of correction, chastening. Okay. This
is a necessary component to proper child rearing. This is not optional. This is something that
has to be a part of any Christian child rearing. Now, I’ve had people say this, “Well, my child
just never made a mistake, so I had never had to spank them.” Are you insane? You know
what, that’s the child that you have to worry about the most.
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: Because that means they’re
just hiding everything, because the Bible teaches that all have sinned and come short
of the glory of God and that there’s none righteous, no not one. My children that get
the most spankings are the ones that I worry about the least. It’s the ones that get less
spankings that you wonder, “What are they up to?” The point is that every child needs
discipline. God said it all throughout the book of Proverbs, and we need to not listen
to the world’s understanding and get brainwashed. Some of these websites and some of these books,
they make a really convincing case. If you listen to those lies you can be sucked in
and you can be deceived. If you’re not grounded in the word of God, if you’re not reading
the Bible, and if you’re not going to a church that’s preaching the Word of God, you can
get sucked in. Let me just put it to you bluntly. These people
are lying. They tell a story about, “Oh, my child was a brat and I just did this really
positive approach and it just worked perfect, and the child just tearfully came to me, ‘I’m
so sorry. What have I done?'” It’s just a lie. Look, it blows me away how naïve people
are in the world we live in. This is a wicked world that we live in. The Bible says the
heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, who can know it. Then we’re surprised
when unsaved people lie to us. Why are you surprised at all about that? I’m telling you.
Here’s the thing. Because you are a person who is generally honest, I hope that I’m talking
to people that are generally honest, you think, “Oh, everybody’s like me.”
Guess what, people out there who don’t have Jesus, people out there who aren’t saved,
they are unscrupulous many times and will just lie through their teeth. You say, “Well,
what’s the motive to lie?” Oh, I don’t know, selling a lot of books. Getting thousands
and thousands of visitors to a website because it’s this wonderful, positive, uplifting,
encouraging, avant-garde approach to child rearing and it’s going to solve all your problems
and blah, blah, blah, and it’s a lie. People will literally just lie. You know what, especially
on the internet, people can lie, because of the fact that with social media, like Facebook,
YouTube, people can put forth whatever image of their life that’s often a complete lie.
People can take pictures of themselves that make themselves look different than they look
in real life. Congregation: Right.
Pastor Anderson: Then they can put out only the best parts of their life. They’re not
photographing every meal, oh no. They’re only Instagraming the meals that came out awesome.
My point is that they’re putting forth this image of, “Oh, look how happy these kids are
and look how happy we are, and look at this fun vacation, when in reality behind the scenes,
for all you know, it’s like, “You just shut up and act like you’re having a good time
and line up and smile for this picture. I need to get this on Facebook,” and, you know,
“Pretend like you’re having fun. Errrr.” You can’t just believe stuff that you see on the
internet, or just think, “Oh, well look at all these really happy people and they’re
not following the Bible, and look how perfect their life is.” It’s a fraud. It’s a lie.
You know who you actually know in real life, people at church. Look around. Look around
the church, right. This is real. You’re actually here tonight, right. You’re physically, bodily
here. Look around. These people are real flesh and blood people. We’re not here with an avatar
and just putting certain- You’re actually seeing and meeting, you can actually look
at my children and talk to them, and see how they act, and I can see how your children
act. This is real life. You can see what the Bible says and believe
the Bible over all these illusions that the devil’s out there. What does the Bible say
the devil’s going to use to deceive us in Ephesians 4? He said sleight of hand. He said
the slight of men and cunning craftiness whereby they lie and wait to deceive. There are people
out there with a plan to trick you, and you don’t think the devil would love to trick
you. Hey, spanking doesn’t work, positive only.
You know, one of the biggest examples of this also, besides just the internet and Facebook
and things like that is reality TV. It’s not real. Nothing that’s on TV is real, okay.
Everything’s fake on TV because it’s all staged, and the lighting, and everything. One of the
big examples of this is that Duggar show. I preached this years ago, that I said, “You
know what I have a problem with the Duggars is that they have all these kids, right, and
they’re all so happy, and obedient, and playing their violins, and everything’s so perfect.
Okay. My kids play like harmonica, guitar, and I could get like a hillbilly band going
on my house, but “Oh no, not them, they’ve all got violins, and cellos, and clarinets.”
I mean everything’s so perfect, right? Here’s the thing, they’ll never talk about
spanking their kids. Never. Never. People would even ask them, “Hey, do you spank your
kids? They’d never give a straight answer. “Oh, but we just try to use positive reinforcement.”
It’s a lie because I guarantee you that they were spanking their kids at some point or
they’d be slinging from the chandeliers, okay. It was just this illusion where they’re real
positive, and friendly, and everybody’s so happy, and there’s no spanking going on on
that show, and there’s no talking about spanking. You know what, that’s deceptive. That’s lying.
Obviously, those people have other bigger problems, too, with all the weirdos that they
hang around with and what some of their kids have turned into and everything else. That
goes to show you why reality TV isn’t as real as you think. I’m saying all that to say this.
Look, the Bible is the Word of God, and we got to keep in focus what the Bible says,
and not get caught up. Look, “Every wind of doctrine,” the Bible says …
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: … “and the cunning craftiness
whereby they lie in wait to deceive.” Every wind of doctrine in our modern vernacular
would be trendy doctrine, because winds are things that they just kind of blow in and
then they blow out. What that’s saying is trendy things, things that just pop on the
scene and, “Ooh, the new excit-” The truth is not new. The truth is old. Okay.
Congregation: Yeah. Pastor Anderson: That better be a root beer
or something. Somebody’s drinking out of a brown bottle here. Okay. It’s water. Just
checking. Just making sure. All right. At least it wasn’t wrapped in a brown paper bag.
Anyway. Let’s look at what the Bible says and see
what the counsel of the Lord is on child rearing. First of all, let’s just start in Proverbs
where there’s so much scripture about the fact that spanking is the way to discipline
your children. Look, if you would, at chapter number 13 of Proverbs, just a few pages to
the left in your Bible. Hopefully you’re already in the book of Proverbs.
Back up to Proverbs 13. The Bible says, in verse 24, “He that spareth his rod hateth
his son, but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Now, I believe that. Now, the
word betimes means early. A lot of people misunderstand this word. They think it means
like from time-to-time, because they kind of guess at the meaning. If you actually look
up all the times the word betimes is used in the Bible, it always means early. It talks
about people getting up betimes in the morning and doing thus and so. What the Bible is saying
is to chasten them early, okay. Now, there could be a couple different ways to interpret
that. You could say, “He that loveth him chasteneth him betimes,” in the sense of when they’re
young. Start early, right, because he said, “chasten they son while there is hope, and
let not thy soul spare for his crying.” Then, you could also interpret it as betimes in
the sense of, when there’s an issue you deal with it right away.
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: You don’t use spanking as
a last resort. There are a lot of people who are Christians that use spanking as a form
of discipline but to them it’s a last resort. It’s something where they try everything else
and then if all else fails they have these really rare spankings. I don’t believe in
that. I like to think of spanking as more like a first-line of defense than a last resort,
okay. There are a lot of reasons why spanking is such an effective form of punishment for
children. God is always right, okay. One of the biggest reasons why a spanking is effective
is that once it’s over, it’s over. Whereas, when you use it as a last resort, what are
you using up until then, just a lot of anger, yelling, shouting, whatever else you’re doing
that lasts longer. People who use other forms of punishment, time outs, groundation, whatever
the case may be, a lot of these are punishments that go on and drag on.
The great thing about a spanking is, you go in, you get the spanking done, and then you
move on with your life. Honestly, when I spank my children, usually two minutes later they’re
smiling and happy and its like nothing even happened. They’re not upset at me. I’m not
upset at them. Problem is solved. We move on with our lives and it provides closure
to the situation, okay. There’s not this grudge. So many parents today are bitter against their
children, where you see parents that are just angry and frustrated, and they’re just, “Arrrrr,
I’m so irritated with my son.” We literally had a lady come to our house this week and
say, “Oh, I’m sorry I’m late,” and this and that, but she said, “I have a five-year-old
and he is a tyrant.” No, look, what in the world, your five-year-old’s a tyrant? Unless
your five-year-old’s stronger than you, what’s going on here? Who’s running that house? How
are you being overpowered by a five-year-old? Okay.
It’s just people have such weird ideas about parenting. “Oh, my five-year-old’s a tyrant.”
You know what, I don’t feel bad about my five-year-old. Do I have a five-year-old? How many do we
have? No, we have four and six, all right. I always just tell people, I pretty much have
all ages. “Oh, you have kids?” “Well, I have kids that are the same age, doesn’t matter
what age your kids are.” I have that, because my kids are all like 14 and down every two
years pretty much is another one. People talk about the terrible twos, “Oh, your kid’s in
terrible twos,” when in reality the terrible twos to us, that’s one of the nicest, sweetest
ages, a two-year-old. They’re so nice, and cute, and fun to play with at that age, so
sweet. When they’re two, three, four. It used to be the terrible twos, but now the terrible
twos is considered two through four. They just spread it out. It’s just an excuse for
a kid acting like a brat, and not having any proper discipline.
What you’ll find is that when people don’t spank their kids the other option is anger.
I don’t blame them for being angry, because if I had children that are tyrannizing me,
children that are just completely disobedient, and I have no recourse, I have no way to fix
the problem, and my hands are just tied, Yeah, I’d be pretty angry, too. I’d be irate. That’s
what we see in the book of Proverbs, that there are a lot of scriptures about child
rearing side-by-side with verses about anger. He’ll talk about spanking and talk about anger
in the same breath, even where we started in Proverbs 19, there was a verse on anger,
and then a few verses later he said, “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy
soul spare for his crying.” That’s why later in the book of Proverbs it says, “The rod
of his anger shall fail.” People often use the rod of anger instead of the physical rod,
and the Bible says that it shall fail. It’s not an effective form of discipline,
anger, and that is what often replaces spanking. Yeah, it sounds great on the website, of just
being real positive, but, guess what, everybody’s a human being and eventually your kids are
going to drive you to the point of insanity if you don’t discipline them and keep them
on track, especially if you have a lot of them. A lot of these goofball, trendy parenting
methods are designed for people who have like one kid, okay. You have to run a tighter ship
the more kids you have, okay. Once you have eight children, you have to make sure that
they’re doing what they’re supposed to do and obeying. You can’t just go to the store
and they just go in eight different directions or something.
The Bible says, in verse 24, “He that spareth his rod hateth.” It doesn’t say spare the
rod, spoil the child. That’s not what it says. It says, “He that spareth his rod hateth his
son, but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Discipline them early. I think both
meanings are good advice. Start young and do it right away. Nip it in the bud when there’s
a serious problem. The Bible says, in chapter number 22. Go to Proverbs 22, and while you’re
turning to Proverbs 22, I’ll read for you chapter 10, verse 13 where it reads, “In the
lips of him that hath understanding wisdom is found, but a rod is for the back of him
that is void of understanding.” The Bible says in chapter 22, verse 8, this is the verse
I was referring to. “He that soweth iniquity shall reap vanity, and the rod of his anger
shall fail.” Look at verse 15. “Foolishness is bound in
the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” The Bible is
telling us that the rod and reproof give wisdom. It says here that, “Foolishness is bound in
the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” When you spank
your children, the Bible says, “You are removing foolishness from their heart.” I mean, think
about that. With every stroke a little foolishness just left. Wisdom enters in. You know that
term, “Pain is weakness leaving the body,” right. If we looked at our children, it’s
like, “No, pain is foolishness leaving the body when it comes to spanking, right.” The
Bible says in chapter 23, if you just flip over the page.
A lot of people will say, “Well, but the rod isn’t really the rod. What it really means
is that shepherd’s rod with the hook on the end and it’s just talking about guiding. It’s
not really talking about spanking.” There are people out there who will just try to
twist the scripture just to try to make it say anything but spanking. Have fun trying
to twist this one. Proverbs 23, verse 13. It says, “Withhold not correction from the
child, for if thou beatest him with the rod,” so if you want to put a little hook on the
end, no problem. As long as you’re beating him with it. That’s what the Bible says. “If
thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.” Thou shalt beat. Now that sounds like
a commandment to me. Think about it. Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not kill. Thou
shalt no commit adultery. Here’s a commandment that says, “Thou shalt beat.” This is not
an option, this is a command of God. “Thou shalt beat him with the rod and shall deliver
his soul from hell.” Now, a lot of people will see the word beat
and they’ll get uncomfortable because they’re kind of thinking of the way we would use the
word beat. They’re picturing beating someone up or something, because that’s how we often
use the word beat. Obviously, when the Bible is using the term beat here, we’re not talking
about punching, or pummeling, or injuring the child.
The goal of spanking is not to injure your child, obviously, but rather to inflict pain
on the child, right. A stinging sensation of a spanking, okay. You don’t want to, obviously,
injure them, but the goal is to actually create pain in the form of a spanking that will be
a punishment for them, okay. You smite them with the rod. You say, “Well, what’s the rod?”
Well, back in the old days, they would take a switch from a tree, right. They would take
a tree branch and use that as a spanking implement. One of the things that people often use is
a cooking spoon, like a wooden cooking spoon. That works well.
One of the things that we’ve used for spanking, don’t tell Lowe’s and Home Depot, but we’ve
taken hundreds of their free paint stir sticks, okay. We take a lot of them, okay. We’ve been
using them for years to spank our children, because it is a good spanking implement. I’m
taking about the five gallon stir stick. I’m not talking about the one gallon, all right.
Honesty, the five gallon stir stick from Lowe’s or Home Depot, it’s almost like a wooden ruler.
It’s just a thin, flat- Again, the goal is to be able to spank hard enough to produce
a stinging sensation but you don’t want to beat them with this blunt force and hurt them,
okay, that’s not the point. One advice that I give people is that before
they spank their children they should try it on themself, just to see what it feels
like so they can understand what level of force to use, because they can try it on themselves.
You say, “Pastor Anderson, aren’t you afraid to preach like this?” You know what the Bible
says? “The fear of man bringeth a snare.” Fear not. Fear God and keep His commandments.
The Bible says preach the Word. You know what, a lot of churches they don’t preach explicitly
like this. Congregation: No they don’t.
Pastor Anderson: Because, they’re afraid. “Oh, man, I’m gonna get in trouble,” and this
and that. You know what, if you’re going to get in trouble, but if you’re not going to
preach the Bible, then you can’t be a pastor. Congregation: Right. Amen.
Pastor Anderson: If you’re not willing to, “take that chance,” then you need to sit down
and shut up and let a pastor get up that’s actually going to preach what the Bible says.
Congregation: Amen. Pastor Anderson: I’m preaching the Bible.
I’m being explicit because the Bible says we should make God’s Word plain.
Congregation: Amen. Pastor Anderson: And make it simple so that
people can understand it. It’s not enough to just read a verse and then move on. The
whole point of preaching is to expound upon the Word of God and to apply it to our lives
in our generation. That’s why we need new preachers coming on the scene all the time,
getting the Word of God out and preaching it to a 2015 crowd, what people in 2015 need
to hear, the things that we’re dealing with. One of the things we’re dealing with is a
generation that has been influenced by Dr. Spock, and been influenced by attachment parenting,
and all this other garbage, and we need to get the Word of God and understand that the
Bible tells us, “Thou shalt beat him with the rod and shall deliver his soul from hell.”
That sounds pretty important. This is serious. The reason that I explained what implements
to spank with is because of the fact that people aren’t taught this stuff by their parents
sometimes. This should be information that is passed down from parents to children. We
need to make sure that everybody knows what we’re talking about here. I think that good
spanking implements are wooden cooking spoons, the pain stir sticks, which is basically like
a wooden ruler in a sense. Those are great things to use. Also, you know what, I know
this freaks people out, but the belt. Congregation: Amen.
Pastor Anderson: The belt is what I grew up being spanked with by my parents, okay. They
spanked me with what was called the sailboat rod, which it was like a fiberglass rod and
it was flat and it was hard and it kind of had a whipping, kind of like woo woo woo,
so it had like a little wrist action where tsh tsh tsh tsh, and that thing hurt. That
was the worst. That was worse than the belt. The sailboat rod was the thing that you dreaded
growing up. My dad usually used a belt. My mom used the sailboat rod. Both parents would
use the sailboat rod. My mom tried to deny using the sailboat rod on me. I’m like, “Mom,
you used it on me hundreds of times.” “Well, maybe sometimes.” She finally admitted. I
have the sailboat rod in my house as a trophy of my upbringing, but I don’t use the sailboat
rod on my kids because of the fact that now it’s become kind of old and brittle, so now
it’s just kind of a trophy there. A lot of people will say, “Hey, it’s unbiblical
to discipline your children with the belt,” you know, because they’ll say, “Hey, it says
the rod,” but there are also a lot of verses that say, “Whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth
and scourgeth every every son whom he receiveth,” which would imply something like above. Here’s
the thing. It’s funny how people get real emotional about the belt for some reason,
but in reality the belt is the thing that’s probably the least likely thing to injure
anyone, because of the fact that it’s a soft object. You’re probably more likely to accidentally
injure someone with a big hard blunt object than a belt.
A belt is providing a snapping, stinging without injury, and that’s the goal. You’re not trying
to injure them, or pummel them, or bludgeon them. What you want to do is just provide
a stinging discipline. Like I said, try it on yourself to make sure that you’re not going
overboard, or that you’re under doing it. I mean I’ve seen people spank their kids and
their child’s just laughing, because it’s just such a joke. Some people literally pat
their child on the fanny and call that a spanking. People will literally just pat, pat, “No,
no.” You’ve seen it, haven’t you. Do that to yourself, and then you’ll realize, “Whoa,
that’s not a punishment.” Right. You have to make sure that you’re actually inflicting
pain, right, but that you’re not going overboard. That’s why you should always try it on yourself
and figure out what the proper level of force is. You know what I’m talking about, you’ve
seen it, right. “No.” Let’s look at a few more scriptures. The Bible
says, for example, in chapter 26, verse 3, just a few chapters later. It says, “A whip
for the horse, a bridle for the ass, and a rod for the fool’s back.” There you go. The
Bible says, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will
drive it far from him.” What is the whip? What is the bridle? These are training implements,
okay. Look at chapter 29, verse 15. The Bible says in 29:15, “The rod and reproof give wisdom,
but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” Look at verse 17, “Correct thy
son, and he shall give thee rest, yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”
Some people look at the fact that we have a lot of children, or that you have a lot
of children and they say, “Why do you have so many children? Are you insane?” Somebody
literally said to me this week, “You must be out of your mind,” which I think is kind
of rude and bold for people just to come up to a complete stranger and say, “You must
be out of your mind.” What exactly did they say, Son? Yeah, “You need to get your head
examined,” you know. I mean, it’s like, “What. Who asked you for advice.” Moron. The thing
is, people will come at you, “You need to get your head examined.” It’s because they
had such a brat they can’t imagine doing that eight times. They had such an undisciplined
child that, of course, they’re not interested in having any. What does the Bible say, “That
if you chasteneth your son, if you correct your son, he’ll give you rest and he’ll give
delight unto they soul.” Why would you not want to have delight in your soul?
See, people aren’t correcting their children, that’s why they are not having delight from
their children, and that’s one of the measurements of whether you’re doing it right. If your
children aren’t bringing you joy and bringing you delight, you’re probably doing something
wrong, because they should be an enjoyment for you to be around, if you’re doing it right.
Let’s keep reading. “Where there is no vision the people perish, but he that keepeth the
law happy is he. A servant will not be corrected by words, for though he understand he will
not answer.” See that, sometimes physical punishment is the only thing that gets through.
It says in verse 20, ” Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope
of a fool than of him.” See, people are quick with the words, right, hasty with their words
and slow to spank and that’s not the right way to do it.
Look at verse 21, “He that delicately bringeth up his servant from a child shall have him
become his son at the length.” Watch this, “An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious
man aboundeth in transgression.” Notice, the righteous man, the wise man, is using physical
discipline and the foolish man is angry, furious, and real quick to speak. It’s all just the
mouth. It’s all just the railing and the anger. Now, there are a lot of scriptures we could
go to on this. A lot of people would try to say, “Oh, that’s the Old Testament,” that
kind of nonsense, as if the whole Bible is not God’s Word, as if Proverbs is not a timeless
book for all generations, okay. All we have to do is go to Hebrews and see
the same thing in Hebrews, chapter 12. Flip over there, if you would. While you’re turning
there, I’ll give you some other scriptures. The Bible says in Deuteronomy 8:5, “Thou shalt
also consider in thine heart, that as a man chasteneth his son, so the Lord thy God chasteneth
thee.” That’s what Hebrews 12 discusses. In verse 5, it says, “Ye have forgotten the exhortation
which speaketh unto you as unto children, my son, despise not thou the chastening of
the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of Him, for whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth,
and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth.” The Bible is saying here that there are both
rebukes and chastening. Rebukes are when you verbally tell the child that they’ve done
wrong. That’s important, too. I’m not saying, “Don’t ever rebuke them or correct them.”
I’m not even saying, “Don’t ever get angry.” There’s a time to get angry. The Bible says,
“Be ye angry and sin not. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath. There’s a time when
anger is appropriate. There’s a time when rebukes are appropriate, but we shouldn’t
just be really hasty to just always use our mouths and slow to spank. No, spanking should
be the primary form of discipline, according to the Bible. That’s what we see admonished
over and over again. Of course, Jesus said in Revelation 3:19,
“As many as I love I rebuke and chasten. Be zealous, therefore, and repent. There’s a
place for both, but the physical discipline is primary. It’s key. Now, it days here if
we continue reading, “If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons, for what
son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof
all are partakers, then are ye bastards and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers
of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence.” When you correct your children
and chasten them they respect you. They give you reverence. It says, “Shall we not much
rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few
days chastened us after their own pleasure, but he for our profit, that we might be partakers
of his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous;
nevertheless, afterward,” listen to this, “it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness
unto them which are exercised thereby.” Look, spanking works according to the Bible.
Congregation: Amen. Pastor Anderson: It says that at the time
it might not even seem like it, but that afterwards it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness.
It really does work. It really will drive foolishness far from him. The Bible says in
Proverbs. I don’t think it’s in my notes, but it says, “The blueness of the wound cleanseth
away evil, so do stripes the innermost parts of the belly.” The belly referring to the
heart, okay. So, what’s the Bible saying? Just as the blueness of the wound, meaning
let’s say you were to cut yourself, or injure yourself, or be wounded in some way, and the
wound had blueness, what is causing the blueness? Let’s talk to some of the nurses in the audience.
What is causing that blueness? What is that? What is it? You are a nurse and you better
give me the right answer. All right, let’s go to the nurse behind you that’s hiding.
What is it? Everybody who’s not a nurse is giving me the right- Jay, help me out here.
What’s the blue stuff? What is it? Congregation: It’s broken blood vessels.
Pastor Anderson: It’s blood. Okay. Everybody who’s not a nurse is like, “Blood, blood,
blood,” and the nurses are like, “I don’t know.” Anyway, here’s the thing. It’s blood,
right. Like if you get a bruise, what’s that discoloration? Blood, okay. If you get a wound
and it gets discolored because it’s infected, it’s blood, right? Do you agree with that?
You’re making faces at me. Okay, yeah, at least I’m getting vigorous nodding from this
nurse. All right, very good. How many nurses do we have in our church tonight, three, four?
We’re going to get to the bottom of this. It’s blood. That’s what’s causing that. Well,
here’s the thing. The blood has these white blood cells, right. White blood cells, okay,
that are part of the immune system, that are there to get rid of that which infects, right,
and to get rid of that which is causing ailment and that needs to be removed.
The Bible days, “Just as the blood,” you know, “just as the immune system will cleanse away
the evil from a wound and that blueness of the wound cleanse away evil, it says, “So
do stripes the innermost parts of the belly.” Think about that. The Bible teaches that physical
discipline actually affects the heart. Of the person who’s being disciplined, and it
actually makes them a better person. It removes evil from their heart. It removes foolishness
from their heart. It really does yield the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them
which are exercised thereby. You know, one think, I’ve got to hurry up
because every time I preach on child rearing I start on the spanking point and it just
fills the whole sermon, just because there’s so much Bible. Obviously, there’s more to
raising your children than just spanking them. That’s not enough. I got to move on. Before
I move on, okay, one of the things that you’ll notice about this is that when it talks about
discipline, physical discipline, about half of the verses are about disciplining children,
and about half of the verses are about disciplining adults, okay. The reason why is because this
used to be a major form of punishment for criminals.
Now, this has been replaced in our modern society with jail or prison, which is a horrible
way to punish people, and is completely unbiblical. Never in God’s law, did He mandate lock them
in a cage as a punishment? It’s never brought up. It’s never taught. The punishments that
God gives are always punishments which are carried out right away. The main punishments
are either to pay a fine, like for example you steal, you pay back the victim double,
or fourfold, or fivefold, depending on the situation. We’re not going to go into that
for the sake of time. You pay it back. Other punishments are a beating, and then, obviously,
very serious crimes like kidnapping, rape, murder, are punished by death, but beating
was a major kind of go-to punishment just for minor crimes, a beating.
Now, people would say today that it’s barbaric to beat someone for their crime as a punishment.
This is just how stupid our society is, when they think they’re smarter than God, and how,
“Professing themselves to be wise, they become fools.” “Oh, it’s so cruel and inhumane,”
right. If we went to the prison right now and we asked all the prisoners, you have a
choice, receive a public beating or continue your present sentence, they would 99% choose
the beating. I’ve talked to people who’ve been in prison, and they’ve asked that question
when they were in prison. They asked all the people around them, “Oh, yeah, I’ll take the
beating.” Of course they would take the beating. Let me ask you this, if 99% of prisoners would
rather get the beating than to finish out their prison sentence, then how could it be
cruel to give people what they want? Congregation: Right.
Pastor Anderson: It’s just so loving to give them what they hate, and here’s the thing
about a beating, it doesn’t ruin your life. You know what a beating does? It makes you
a better person. Congregation: Yeah.
Pastor Anderson: You know what prison does? It makes you a worse person, and it ruins
your life. You know, 80-some percent of women divorce their husband when he goes to prison.
Did you know that? You go to prison and you know what, you probably lost your wife now.
You probably lost your job. You probably lost your career because now you have this criminal
record that you carry around for the rest of your life. Look, it would be far more humane
to just flog that person publicly. It’s over, it’s done, they go to work the next day and
they’re a better person, and they’re less likely to do it again. You say, “Well, I don’t
think.” Shut up. The Bible says it’s going to work. I believe it’s going to work.
Congregation: Amen. Pastor Anderson: Prison doesn’t work.
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: You come out of prison worse.
Correctional facility. No. The correctional facility out to be a beating facility. You
know what the Bible says? When the judge says, “guilty,” and he delivers the sentence of
how many stripes, the Bible says that they do it right then and there and that the judge
has to watch. Right now, the high and mighty judge, you know, last time I was in court
the judge had this giant coffee mug that said like, “I’m the boss,” or “I’m god,” or something.
He had some kind of a really obnoxious cup. The pompous, arrogant judge sits up there
and just destroys people’s lives by, “Guilty, ten years, fifteen years,” just handing out
these sentences that are destroying people’s lives. I’m not talking about murders, and
rapists, and people. I’m talking about the 90-some percent of people that are in prison
for nonviolent crimes. Congregation: Right.
Pastor Anderson: Ninety-some percent, and it doesn’t mean that they’re horrible people
or that they’re reprobates, or that they can’t be fixed. No, they’re people who made a mistake.
They committed sin, and they should be restored, because we’re not talking about rapists, murders,
I’m taking about the majority of people in prison that are just there for something like
stealing, or drugs, is probably 90% of it, right, pot and whatever. Look, they need to
be restored. They need to be punished, but these judges just hand out these sentences
of life. I mean, what kind of stupidity is giving somebody a life sentence? Either kill
them or let them live their life. How can you just lock them up for their entire life?
What’s even the point of their life at that point?
A lot of these people don’t even want to live, you know, because it’s like life in prison.
It’s so depressing to them because it’s such a cruel and inhumane punishment, that’s why.
But, the world says, “Oh, it’s loving, it’s wonderful, it’s fine,” and “Oh, the beating,”
you know, “is so bad.” They carry that over to parenting. Timeout’s like a little prison
sentence, right? “Oh, no, inhumane spanking.” See, what about if the judge had to actually
watch the punishment, right, then he might be more fair, and more humane, because he
understands the repercussion of what he’s doling out. If he says 30 stripes, or whatever,
he has to watch that and then his heart can tell him whether that’s appropriate. Not just,
“Guilty,” never see the guy again. He doesn’t have to sit and listen to the children of
that person crying, “Where’s our dad? When’s dad coming home? I want to see dad.” They
don’t have to be there for the divorce proceedings. They don’t have to be there for the real repercussions
of that punishment when the guy can’t get a job and when the guy’s marriage falls apart
and then his wife marries somebody else who molests his kids and whatever, because people
are most likely to be molested by a stepparent a lot of the time, or boyfriend, or whatever.
It just destroys people’s lives because it’s a stupid system because it’s not Biblical.
What God says is always right and wise and what the world says is always foolish and
stupid, you know. Of course man has all kinds of devices in his heart, but the counsel of
the Lord that shall stand. This prison industrial complex is a money-making
machine for a lot of people who run it, okay. Did you know that the United States has more
people in prison per capita than any country on the planet. The land of the free has more
people locked up than any, than Russia, than communist China. We have more people locked
up per capita than any nation in the world. Doesn’t that tell you that something weird
is going on in our country, when there are hundreds of countries in this world and we
lead the world in prison population. Then people say, “Oh, we’re good people here.”
Well, if we’re good people then why are we locking up all these good people? It doesn’t
make any sense, right? Look, there are horrible people in prison,
but you know what ought to be done? This is what I would do if I were king, we’d take
out all the murders, and rapists, and child molesters and shot then all in the head with
firing squad, execute them all, right, and then let the rest go free, all the people
who committed nonviolent crimes, and give them a beating and let them go. Actually,
just let them go because they’ve already suffered enough. They’ve already suffered enough. Doesn’t
make any sense, my friend. Now, a couple of things on that subject, okay,
is that when we talk about spanking, you know, “When do you start,” people will often ask,
and then they’ll often ask, “When do you stop,” you know when it comes to spanking your children.
I know we kind of got off on a commercial break there about the prison system. Back
to child rearing, all right. When do you start? Early. When do you stop? When they leave the
home. Congregation: Amen.
Pastor Anderson: Now, a lot of people, “Whoa.” Here’s what’s so funny. The world thinks you’re
abusive for spanking young kids, right, and then they think you’re abusive for spanking
a teenager. It’s like, whoa, wait a minute. You don’t like spanking them too young, but
then all of a sudden a teenager is too old? What’s going on, Goldilocks? There’s just
this one little stage where you think spanking’s okay? Here’s the thing about that. I thank
God my parents spanked me. I’m thankful for it. I don’t look back, “Oh, my parents were
so abusive with that sailboat rod, or the belt, or whatever.” I’ve thanked my parents.
I’ve said, “Thank you for spanking me. Thank you for disciplining me so that I didn’t grow
up and become a monster.” By the way, I got spanked more than any of the other kids in
my family, okay. You know what, I’m glad of that, because of the fact that it helped me
learn about right and wrong and taught me to fear the Lord and to fear my parents and
so forth. Here’s the thing, my parents stopped spanking
me when I was about 11-12 years old, okay. They stopped spanking me. This is the part
I don’t agree with. I believe that they should have continued spanking me if I needed it.
Here’s the thing, when you turn 11-12 and your parents stop spanking you, it’s not that
they stop telling you what to do, it’s not that they stop getting upset with you when
you do wrong, right, so what is the spanking being replaced with. It has to be replaced
with something, right. In my house it was replaced with a lot of lecturing, right. A
lot of anger, and lecturing, and yelling. Here’s the thing about that, I would have
preferred to get spanked personally, okay. I’m not criticizing my parents. I’m not down
on my parents, because, you know what, I’m very thankful for my parents and I can say
this, we have four children in our family and all four of us are independent, fundamental
Baptists. We’re all saved, all soul winning, all people who love the Lord, okay. Not saying
that we’re perfect, but I’m saying at least all their children are Christians and in church
and living decent lives. My parents did a good job. I’m not down on my parents at all,
but I believe that this was a mistake on their part to stop spanking, because they still
had discipline problems with the kids, but then they just didn’t spank, I guess just
because society was telling them “Don’t spank.” I’m telling you what, I don’t care what society
thinks, because the Bible, like I said, half the time talks about disciplining adults.
I’ve no problem continuing to spank my children as long as they’re in my house, and I mean
that from the bottom of my heart. Now, obviously, as they get older they should need less and
less spankings because they’re more foolishness has already been removed earlier on, and they’re
getting wiser and wiser, and they need discipline less and less. If they need it, they’re going
to get it. Not saying it happens all the time, but if they need it they’re gonna get it,
period. There’s no end in sight, you know, until they move out of the house. That’s where
I stand on that. As far as what’s too early, I’m not gonna
be the judge of that. I’m gonna let you be the judge of that, because, honestly, it’s
different with every child. We started spanking different children at different ages because
of the fact that some children need it sooner than others. Some of my children have gotten
two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine times as many spankings. No, I’m just
kidding, but some of my children have gotten more spankings than others, okay. That’s just
life. You have different kids, different personalities. I will say this, any time your child is old
enough to just defy you, which is pretty young, right, then that’s a situation where they
need to be spanked. Obviously, a little newborn baby doesn’t even have a concept of right
and wrong. They’re screaming and crying for food because that’s just what they do. There’s
nothing wrong with that. It’s not sinful for them to do that. As they get to a point where
you tell them, “No,” and then they just do it anyway and then just look at you like,
“What are you gonna do about it, punk?” You know what, every child does that at some point.
When you tell them, “Don’t touch that,” and they touch it and then they look at you like,
“What now? Your move.” It’s true. They do. When that happens, you know, you know what
you’re move is at that point. Here’s one thing that I see people making
a mistake with the real young children, is don’t spank them through the diaper. This
is a way that you could injure your child, because if you spank them through a thick,
padded diaper, basically what you’re doing, and lest you freak out, kids wear diapers
for years, you know, until they’re, what, three years old or whatever. The think is,
if you spank them through the diaper by the time you’re inflicting any pain through that
padding, you’re probably hitting them too hard, you know, where you could actually injure
them. It’s not safe. I don’t think it’s safe to spank your child through a diaper. You
should always remove the diaper or pull it aside and not spank them through the diaper.
Now, I’ve got like two minutes for the whole rest of the sermon, but anyway. Obviously,
spanking’s not enough. Let me just real quickly in closing, but we had to spend time on that.
It’s a lot of Bible, and it’s important, and people need to hear this stuff because there’s
a lot of false teaching out there. Here’s some other elements that go into successful
child rearing besides just spanking, okay. Here are some things to keep in mind. First
of all, everything brings forth after it’s own kind. A major important thing about child
rearing is being the right example for your children.
This is very, very powerful. You can sit there and say, “Don’t smoke kids. Cough, cough.
Cough. Don’t be like me.” They’re going to grow up and smoke, period. People who smoke,
their kids grow up and smoke, like 90-some percent of the time, probably, right? You
know, you’ve seen it so many times, and the example is powerful. Here’s a great illustration
of that. I remember when Solomon was first learning how to play piano. Keep telling him,
Practice your piano, practice your piano, didn’t really practice much, didn’t want to
practice. Then I went through a phase where I was trying to get better at piano, so I
was practicing all the time, and as soon as I started practicing all of a sudden he started
practicing all the time, and all of a sudden he’s spending hours and hours practicing.
The example was more powerful than saying, “Practice the piano.” Children naturally want
to be like their parents. Children look up to their parents and want to be like them
and emulate them, and they’ll act like them. Another example is running. I run a lot and
my children they all love running, all of them. Most kids right now, if they’re at school
and they’re told, “Hey, go run a lap, or go run a mile, they’re like, “Aw, man,” it’s
like a punishment, right. “Take a lap.” That’s a punishment. In our house, it’s like a reward.
They love it. You’re like, “Why in the world, who loves running?” Honestly, because I love
running and because my children see me running, they beg me to go running. They’re like, “Dad,
can we go running. Dad, take us running.” I mean sometimes, I’m like, “Look, we can’t
go running. It’s 115 degrees outside, you know, we’re gonna die.” They’re just like,
“Take me running. Take me running,” and they’re like, “I’m gonna run a mile.” My children
come to me, “I’m gonna run a mile every single day, every day. I need to improve my running.”
“What?” They love running. Why? Simply because I run. I never tell them like, “You need to
run.” Never. They’re coming to me begging to go running, okay. This shows how powerful
the example is more than just words of telling them what to do. Show them how to do it, okay.
I think another huge thing with parenting is that you need to spend time with your children.
The Bible says, “A child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” I think the reason why
the mother is brought up is because she’s the primary caregiver, so if the child’s left
to himself, it’s the mother that’s dropping the ball in a large way. Today women are sometimes
caught up in so many things that they just want to kind of get the kid out their. It’s
so easy to stick it in front of a TV, stick it in front of a video, stick it in front
of a cartoon, and just kind of have the kids off your hands, so you can do what? Facebook,
you know, surf the net, watch TV, watch soap operas, you know, whatever people do instead
of what they should be doing, which is spending time with their children, okay.
A lot of times it’s like, “Man, I can get anything done with these kids,” but it’s like
those kids are what you’re supposed to be getting done. That’s your main job. What do
you mean get things done? You’re getting things done by raising kids, ladies. I mean, that’s
your job. No, obviously, there’s cooking, and cleaning, and other household matters
that need to be attended to and sometimes they need to do stuff on their own, play on
their own, work on their own, but when they’re just constantly on their own so you can play,
or you can sit around, or you can do whatever, you need to reevaluate your priorities there.
The child left to himself causes his mother shame.
As fathers we need to also play a role in out children’s lives, too, and spend time
with them. When we have free time, let’s try to bring our kids along with us on whatever
we do. That’s why I’m glad my kids like to run, because then I go running with them and
it’s some time we can spend together. We can go hiking together.
If I ever have a chance where I can bring my kids to work with me, I would try to use
those opportunities. Bring my sons to work with me, because you know, when I think about
my parents, if I have fond memories of my mom and dad, usually I’m thinking about time
that we spent together. When I think about my dad, I think about times that we went dirt
bike riding together, times that we would ride bicycles around the neighborhood, times
that we would go water skiing and we’d ride Seadoos at the river. My dad would take me
places and do stuff with me. Those were quality times with me and my dad. I remember spending
time with my mom and going out and doing things with my mom, and just spending hours talking
to my mom. There’s no replacement for that quality time with your children.
You need to just understand that your children are an investment. Don’t get so busy with
all your other work, or even busy serving God when you don’t realize that you’re raising
the next generation of servants of God. You need to spend time and energy investing in
your children, talking to them, spending time with them, going places with them. Doing things.
It doesn’t have to be a big fancy, expensive thing. It could be as simple as just riding
a bicycle around the neighborhood, but they remember that. I could be a simple picnic,
or going out and doing something, but they’re going to remember those things.
Another thing, I think, is to make sure that your children understand that you love them,
expressing love to your children. It’s not enough to just be this disciplinarian, but
you’re not showing love to your children, okay. The Bible says, “Fathers provoke not
your children to anger lest they be discouraged.” You don’t want to discourage your children
by just being too harsh with them and just provoking them to anger and not showing them
love, right. You have to balance the coin. Yes, discipline, yes, rebuke, but also you
need to show them love and affection, and bring them up in the nurture and admonition
of the Lord, and show them that you love them. Spend time with them. Care about them. Praise
them for their achievements. There are a lot of things that go into good parenting, and
they’re all in the Bible. The Bible is the final authority on this subject.
If you want to know about rearing children, ask someone who has successfully reared children,
and I’m not talking about the world’s method of success. I’m talking about a child that’s
successful by God’s standards. Why don’t you ask them what they did. You know, I never
ask people who failed what did you do wrong, because usually they don’t know. If they would
have known, they would have fixed it. People who did it wrong always love to give advice,
“Don’t make the mistake I made.” A lot of times they’re wrong about what the mistake
they made even was. It’s way smarter to talk to people who’ve succeeded, and ask them,
“What did you do right? What did you do to succeed. Find people who have children that
are the way that you want your children to be and ask them. Find people who have adult
children that are living for God and observe what they did, and get advice from them. Don’t
get advice from people who failed. The world will pull out all these studies
against spanking, right, and they’ll say, “Oh, well look at this study against spanking,
you know, because look at all these successful children who never got spanked,” but what’s
the world define as success? I mean, you could be some filthy sodomite, but as long as you
didn’t get arrested and as long as you are marking a certain amount of money, they’re
like, “You’re a success.” I mean, right? What’s the world? They suppose that gain is godliness.
Congregation: Right. Pastor Anderson: These statistics of, “Oh,
look at all these kids who turned out right and they were never spanked,” but right to
them is some lesbian who’s face looks like she fell out a fishing tackle box, but because
she got a bachelor in arts in lesbian poetry and has never been in prison, she’s a great
success, you know. What do you define? The person who is a failure is because they’ve
ever been arrested or something, you know. I’ve been arrested, for crying out loud. Half
our church has been arrested. Hello. You’re not even a full-fledged member of the church
if you haven’t been arrested yet. No, I’m just kidding.
The point is, the world defines success in a weird way, okay, and so, therefore, you
can’t go by their false studies and their statistics of, “Well, you know, graduates
from Harvard don’t spank.” Well, of course not, because they’ve just been brainwashed
in a atheistic institution. Of course they’re not going to follow God’s law. They don’t
spank their one child, you know, Ferguson, or whatever, their little yuppie child that
goes from his tennis lesson to his violin lesson to his, you, know Latin classes, or
whatever. Little Lord Fauntleroy, okay. “we never spank him.” Okay, but when he grows
up and he’s a sodomite. When he grows up and he’s a queer little sissy. We don’t consider
that success. We actually like blue collar people who didn’t necessarily go to college.
We actually like people that give you a firm handshake.
We actually don’t think that somebody’s a horrible person because they got arrested,
or whatever, as long as it was for a good reason that they got arrested. I mean, half
the apostles got arrested. They all turned out wrong according to the world. Sorry, all
the apostles got arrested, excuse me. The point is that when we talk about success.
I’m talking about people who raise godly Christians. Find out what their parenting is and I guarantee
you it’s going to be biblical parenting. I’m not talking about one child that turned out
right. I’m talking about a whole bunch of children that turned out right, there’s got
to be a common denominator there, right. When you look at kids that are acting right, what
are they doing. Don’t listen to the world, and don’t say, “Well, I saw on Facebook, they’re
succeeding.” No, no, no, I’m talking real life people. People that you actually know,
okay. That’s what you should go by. Let’s bow our heads and have a word of prayer.
Father we thank you so much for your word, Lord. Thank you for children that can really
delight our souls, Lord. Please help us not to be bitter. You know, I see people sometimes,
even amongst your people, Lord, that just seem bitter toward their children, and just
angry a lot, Lord. Help us to love our children and to not be so bitter and angry, Lord. Help
us to just love our children and to understand what a blessing they are. Help us to discipline
them when they need it, Lord, so that they can delight us and we can have a good loving
relationship with our children, Lord. Give us wisdom from your Word. Help us as we read
your Word to spot the things that you have there for us about this subject.
God, just protect our children and help them all to grow up and to be godly Christians.
Help every child in this room to grow up and to be someone that would be an honor to their
parents, not because of money and college degrees, but actually because of just godliness
and righteousness, they can make their parents proud. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

when I look back on my life one of the things I could have be used more of was discipline. my parents very rarely spanned me and you know what, they got very little respect from me. the lord chastened me and brought me to self discipline through great personal suffering. suffering some could say I brought on myself. but, I understand it was the Lord's rod bringing me back to Him. all of it could have been avoided through healthy corporal punishment.

pastor anderson doesn't know it but his sense of humor is remarkable hahahahaha quite possibly the funniest but wisest man I've ever listened to lol

Pastor Anderson when are you going to do a live talk on youtube or how can i contact you, I have a salvation question so its Urgent but i need to ask you about salvation and need it to be explained thouroly by someone i can trust on salvation

Cult Leader Anderson can add child abuse to his long list of failings.

Any parent that "spanks" a child does not deserve children.

So you are saying we should be spanking right away to save ourselves anger? Oh well now I know why I get irritated. I try to save it for it later. Any advice from any other parents?

don't even bother watching this sermon
what's he gonna say
just telling you to beat your kids when appropriate
and beat your kids beat your kids

Amazing preaching pastor anderson…this world needs more pastors like you to preach the whole word of God and not just part but alot of preachers today dont care about preaching all of the bible and only care what society thinks….I pray they wake up before its too late….God bless you your family and church in Jesus Name Amen

I got beat up petty good lots of time and in now days got no problems that the average guy about my age has I assume it worked really good on me

man this guy really stomps on other preachers. My last pastor told me revelations wasent even gonna happen and i should stop worrying about it.

I spank my children. There is a difference between spanking and beating.. Spanking isn't child abuse, but beating your child is.. SO know the difference.

Why should we believe in god? Is there any solid evidence? And don't give me that "it's in the bible" nonsense That is not an argument. If you can give me evidence of his existence I will instantly start to believe.

I feel sorry for the 9 children of this mad man, Anderson, who must all live in fear of his aggressive religious nonsense.. Children's services should keep an eye on them.

Asian parents: "Chastening" even when the kids don't do anything wrong. They just get suddenly angry to their kids when they are playing or reading or whatever when they are in a bad mood.

Wait a minute…. It can reach 115 degrees in America? Water boils outdoor then?

Here in my family both of my parents work because my school fee is so damn high.

Damn… just thinking about all these make me don't want to get married…

I am a grandmother of 7 children from my two daughters. I spanked my children. I wanted them to respect others and themselves. If your children do not respect you, they WILL hate you.Spanking is simple. The world complicates it. Start early, when they are taking those first steps. They reach for something breakable and you say "NO" firmly. They reach for it again and you say "NO" and give the little hand a slap. Most children will quickly learn that you are to be obeyed. They don't always understand why, but you do. It is for their own good. It makes them better people. It teaches them right from wrong and that wrong has consequences.I never had to move my breakables out of my baby's reach. And I almost always only had to get onto them about things once because they knew that momma was consistent about, well, about everything . We did not often have to spank. If you start EARLY and be CONSISTANT, they understand where the line is drawn and not to cross it. Children that do not understand what and where their limitations and expectations are, they are very insecure and unhappy children. I played with my children. I homeschooled them for 9 years. We had a small farm and raised poultry, rabbits and goats. We did wildlife rehabilitation and had wild animal babies at our house at any given time. I was with my precious daughters 24/7 so I had to have some control over our lives and their behavior.My "rod" of choice was the old-school switch off the forsythia bushes or crepe myrtles. They stung and increased hollering  and leaping, but they increased wisdom and a meek and loving spirit.Now, my two daughters are raising their own children the same way. One daughter has six children and she homeschools. She can take those kids anywhere she wants to and hardly anyone even knows they are there. They are happy, fun loving kids with great sense humor and they love their wise and loving parents, Jesus and Pastor Anderson..

Could anyone remind me the verse from OT that shows that Preacher of God was preaching to Adults, Women and Young Ones.
That young and everyone should be on main service and main teaching without sending kids for the "worse" teaching.
Blessings lads

thankyou Pastor,God needs like you who declare his word, continue to preach and I hope God will reward you someday.

"Raising Godly Children". Another way of saying indoctrinate children while they trust you (and your fairy tales) before they are able to use common sense and make their own decisions. I think Dawkins has another word for this: Child Abuse

Wow this sermon brought back memories. My mom
literally used whatever she had available. She threw a cast Iron skillet at my thigh once lmbo…. she didn't get me much BUT the fear of being spanked made me think more about my choices. My fiancé and I have 4 children. (we've been together 15 yrs) he doesn't spank the kids I do. But I don't normally have to spank our kids and we also get commended on our kids all the time. Our eldest is 10 and she's been spanked 5xs in her life our 6 yr old twice (both girls) our son who is 5 he's been binked alot. My model is you embarrass me I'll embarrass you (& they know I will) since he's turned 5 I actually don't have to Bink him so much anymore. BUT our one yr old today he tried to embarrass me by screaming for no reason so I spanked his arm once (he was sitting in the buggy and it's mostly about the sound at this age) it was so funny but I obviously didn't laugh he cried looked up at me while he was looking up at me he would stop crying when he wasn't getting the attention he wanted (I believe in teaching them early how to act in public) he would start crying again. My eldest started laughing because it was funny because we all knew it didn't hurt it was just his feelings hurt. But I told her don't and explained to her why and 2 Secs later he stopped. but long story short… Spankings work. BUT for some reason after talking with other parents at church as well boys seem to need to be spanked more than girls…. but also it takes boys longer to learn.. my son could flip the wrong way cry continue 60xs of doing it the wrong way before he does it the right way… I believe boys are hard headed and take longer to learn. but are also more determined which is good.. anyway this went longer than expected but I'm with God on the spankings. #prospanking lol

Perhaps spanking is effective. If it's really needed. If spanking and, spanking first, is what the bible is teaching then why didn't Jesus go around spanking children? Or at least, spank some? Even more curious, did Jesus ever spank any child?

raising children in this day and age is really hard , so i tend to use this site for extra income .

l am inspired with your preaching pastor you're preaching the reality .keep on preaching the truth of the Lord never change pastor even the world turn against you or call you different types of name don't worry about that pastor keep on moving forward ..The problem is this the world they can't handle the truth

right on…but now u have the government that try to control u like cps so your child can be in the hands of the devil, that's why u see kids grow up to steal or do drugs even as kids bc parents hands are tie by the government.

excellent sermon! my younger brother was not disciplined as i was. I am a successful, soul winning Christian. He is an ex jail bird pantheist and an angry man.

The proof is in the pudding. God's Word is PERFECT!!!

Pastor Anderson,

Not that I doubted you because I've never seen someone who knows The Bible as you do however I wanted you to know that you were absolutely spot on about the Duggars re: spanking their children and having duplicitous tongues.

Whenever they're asked if they spanked the kids they're always very vague about it; they never give a yes or no answer, so in theory they can still not answer the question and maintain the facade that they didn't, and say they're "not lying," but a lie of omission is still a lie and do they lie a lot!

When the Josh Duggar scandal broke out The officer (their friend whom is now serving time for child molestation, so it's pretty easy to see why they went to him for "help,") and but knew with their brand it had to be reported what had they gone to the actual authorities CPS would've been involved and the Duggers couldn't have that so they secretly had a friend who happens to be in law enforcement come over talk to the children and file a "report" that was never entered. In that report one of the children (my guess is Jill because that's how she referred to them in one of their first specials) was asked if their parents abuse them and she said, "Mother and dad use a rod." I think that statements pretty clear-cut yet Michelle never answers the question; it was intimated by Pastor Anderson, quite wisely so, and now confirmed.

You can't trust a word out of their lying tongues. It's always the people who have to profess just how religious they are that are the phonies, they're the type of people who make real Christians look bad. I remember in one of your sermons you talked about the people who brag about how many people their church saves during soul winning and you jokingly asked, "well how many did you save," making the point that real Christians just do- they don't need to tell the world about it. I feel like they're exactly like that .

Personally if I were to watch reality television, not that do, I'd prefer watching Pastor Anderson and his family than the Duggars because at least then I'd know I was watching something real.

I never understood parents who talk about how rotten their children are. For one thing, how can you talk about your children that way? And another thing, that reflects REALLY poorly on their parents. How do they not see that? And I rarely spank my kids because when you do it properly, they end up knowing better pretty fast. Mine are 6 and 4 and I use spanking. So does my mother who looks after them. This is also a way to avoid daycare. Leaving them with strangers has a lot to do with their horrible behavior. I know they wont spank my kids if I leave them there. They are better off with grandma. Families that stay strong and stick with God will end up much better off than using the worldly thing that set families up to fail.

telling your children they can choose their gender and destroying their innocence is child abuse.. teaching your child the bible is a good and loving caring thing to do and spanking is not child abuse because every generation forever have been spanked so has everybody in history bin child abusers ?? haha

Neither my husband or I smoke or drink and so far all of my children who have left home have done both. It's just heartbreaking.

Keep Preaching thy word, GOD is with you… It's better to trust in GOD than put confidence in man…. No matter what People says it doesn't matter as long as your with JESUS, GOD IS WITH YOU…..

Really really good teachings Pastor Anderson !! ….. Going to be focusing on this in the coming years with my daughters …..


Unconditional love is what children/people need, nobody should be punished for doing anything, nobody should ever be physically/mentally/emotionally abused for any reason, and that includes spanking, which is child abuse. This asshole is wrong on so many levels.

I wish that more pastors had the guts and biblical honesty to preach with this kind of authority and confidence on the things that God says in His Word.

Pastor Anderson, I loved your brief explanation the difference between crime and sin when you schooled the two reprobates during your live interview in a radio station in Botswana. I wish you can explain it again in a sermon

What is an appropriate age to start spanking? I have a year old daughter who I think needs it. Is that too young?

I thank God for your sermon's pastor Anderson. Spanking is something I struggle with; but know I have to do. My parents are non believers and like you said spanking was the last resort type thing which they did while being furious so it planted that on my mind. I just recently became a single mother and my childrens father was the one to spank needless to say now I have two children that dont respect me. I pray its not too late and please keep me in prayers.

Spare the rod……………. to SOME is old school, it is the right thing to do. Keep on keeping on, from SINGAPORE.

I grew up in a conservative Christian home and was spanked with a belt or a paddle. Spanking is not abuse and it works. I am thankful my parents spanked for disobedience. More Christian parents need to spank their kids.

Many so called godly women would threaten their children saying wait until your father gets home and you will be punished.
The poor kid's live under threats and a holding in of terror from foolish mothers.
The dad comes home to hug his kids and they are scared of him because the mothers are destroying their home and hurting the children.
I'm so glad brother Anderson teaches instant punishment so that within 2 minutes of the child's disobedience the relationships are restored back to love.
Also punishing a child for accidents is foolishness
Only punish once you have trained the children and they disobey.
If you have never spent time training you have no right to punish a child.
Spending great lengths of training properly iliminates 99% of frustration and problems
Smacking 1% will solve the foolishness bound inside the child

The world say smacking your child in love is wrong.
The world say your boy can be a girl today.
God's word is train a child
Use a rod to discipline your child.
If you follow God's Word in love you have a clear conscience and your child won't go to hell.
No discipline = no fear of God's punishment for sin
The result of a child who doesn't believe in discipline will end up in hell
This topic is so vitality important it's result will be eternal hell for some.
It's sad that parents scream and yell at their children and hold grudges for days against their children. But they won't train disciple them in love.
2018 parenting is sumed up
Give your child more entertainment and let them raise themselves their own way.

Praise God for a man who is fearlessly preaching the most important topic society needs apart from salvation

The majority of church's follow the world in child raising.
Mums are proud to admit "I don't smack my child I use time out "
Mums admit that they want a long prolonged broken relationship between their children :(((
Dad's want a quick punishment and a restored relationship with their family.
It takes courage to be a man in this world

Tips for raising children
Show your child everything before you tell them to do it.
Children follow parents
Children should never be alone
Burn your TV.
Get rid of Facebook movies etc.
But a bike, do everything with your children.

I've had a hard time for a couple of years now with my discipline towards my two boys, and have been conflicted on what "method" (if you will) to use so that I do not "hurt" them or make them feel "negative" (I guess) about themselves. There's been quite a lot of changes within the past 6 months and with it, my involvement in our Father and his word. So today I decided to look up sermons or something on disciplining children through Christ and what the Bible would say about it. I found this video and I thank you for being one of the extreme few (if not the ONLY) pastor to cover this topic. You have helped me see the truth and not be afraid of my human earthly emotions on the matter. God bless you and you family! Please do not stop preaching the truth and please keep posting on YouTube so people like me (who are not close to your area) can listen to the word of God and learn important lessons to have a better life.

Thank you so much! God bless.

I am from India, my parents use leather belt spank… Praise God today I am very happy. Brought up in God fearing home. Still strive to love God, service Jesus. Now I am becoming a disciplined, manners and become scientist. career. this teaching is forgotten in these years

Deut 21 18If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother, or listen to them when disciplined, 19his father and mother are to lay hold of him and bring him to the elders of his city, to the gate of his hometown…
21Then all the men of his city will stone him to death. You must purge the evil from among you, and all Israel will hear and be afraid."

What do you say about an adult man at 45 still living with his family, not independent because of a disability. He was diagnosed with borderline autism or similar. Should he ever be married or stay single? And if stay single should he have to live with family where there's a lot of emotional drama or should he be able to live in living assisted group home?

Proverbs 13:24 King James Version (KJV)
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Bible says to beat your wife and kids. But it’s not what you think. It’s neat them as to win, because they are challenging the husbands authority. And the rod of correction is a means for measure (to beat them with the rod) the head of the house is to measure the challenges the children and wife exert . And by means of knowledge and wisdom beat them at there own game and put them back in order.

So glad i found this video, I love it when a pastor tells it like it is in the scriptures, and doesn’t just preach Luke warm sermons.


This guy is so obviously a closeted gay man. It's so clear. In a year or two we'll be reading about him getting caught soliciting sex in a bathroom or elsewhere. Homophobia is a sure sign of a man in the closet…afraid of his own sexuality. Well…dude when you do finally come out I'll do you. You are HOT. Really HOT. I bet you're a top. Well I'm a really good bottom.

+sanderson1611 Good sermon Pastor Anderson I really like it and appreciate it a whole lot. Thank you so much, God Bless and GodSpeed.

A man once beat the heck out of his infant son. Don't worry, that infant went on to be well known. Controlled almost all of Europe in the early 1940's 🎃

The colossal ignorance of this phony preacher is beyond measure. Take the time to get to know your children unless you want to raise serial killers

I know I'm off topic, pastor, but could you give us your opinion on the wheatcroft incident, since you live in Arizona?


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