Baby Boomer Dating Tips!!! Online Dating Websites for Boomers
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So you’ve decided to put yourself out there and give online dating a shot? Well, stay tuned and find out how to get started on the right foot! Thanks so much for tuning into 2nd Act TV. Real happy to introduce you to Sandy Weiner today. Sandy is the founder of last first date dot com, and THE dating coach for women over 40, 50 and beyond. Sandy, welcome to the program. Thanks so much, great to be here. Well, today Sandy what we want to talk about is those people who have chosen, you know to put themselves out there and give online dating a try, but don’t quite know how to get started. Obviously the first decision is what site do you choose. You know, given that we wanted to attract, as you say, a lasting healthy relationship, how do you steer us in what direction? Well I think it’s important to be on at least two sites. I recommend a large site like match.com or even OurTime. A lot of my clients enjoy that site, and and then to go on a boutique II kind of site like JDate if you’re Jewish or Christian Mingle if you’re Christian. And people have joined Date My Pet, there is a site for everything. If you have a Mac and you love Apple products there’s a site for you! So find the sites that that you enjoy, you know, so I also recommend that if you’re going to go on a paid site like match.com that you should have at least a six-month subscription, because what happens to most people they get online dating often they join for free, they go, you know, all the scammers and jerks have contacted me and I’m getting off, and they haven’t given it a chance, and they haven’t taken initiative to contact the people that they like. I also recommend at least one dating app, and I know for people over 50, 60 sometimes they’re not so great with technology but your phone is a great tool it’s a computer it is the the easiest thing to do is to join a dating app and I recommend Bumble. Bumble Bee um, like the Bumble Bee, and they actually have really cute little messages when you get a, when you get a match. It says there’s a new Bee in your Hive, and it’s it’s really cute. And so all you do is you sign up, and it connects to your Facebook account so you have to have Facebook, which a lot of people are afraid of. That’s for the app, the app. All the dating apps pretty much connect with your Facebook account, and then the women make the first move in Bumble, they have to! And so it’s fun, it’s less stress yeah, so I like it. Well and by having to go first I guess that that takes that pressure off you know thinking that we’re being forward or something if we if we make the first move like on Match, interesting. I don’t think that women are forward or chasing if they make the first move, I think they’re flirting. And I think many women are passive in dating and they’re not passive in their lives at all!
These women who are like so strong and tough and then it comes to dating they’re like he’s gonna have to chase me, yeah i’m not writing him first, and I’m like, are you kidding me like, especially men who are older, so their testosterone is waning, our estrogen is waning, we’re actually becoming more equal hormonally, you know we’re getting sort of more balanced. I see a lot of women in midlife or who are finding their second act! Who, you know have their second career and they are incredibly energetic and a lot of the men are kind of waning, they’re, they’re everything’s waning, they’re ramping down, they’re ramping down, we’re ramping, we’re ramping up! So a lot of men are tired of chasing, they’ve been chasing their whole lives, and they’re not lazy they’re just they’re tired of rejection! They’ve been rejected over and over they’ve made the first move both you know sexually, they’ve gotten rejected when they flirted you know so many times rejection, rejection, rejection. It gives you so much power as a woman. I don’t, just don’t ask him out! You’re not aggressive, you’re assertive! That is such a great, I’ve never thought of it in that way, that it’s a really really good point. So yeah, I mean just think of all the rejection they’ve gone through, now you know a lot of them are back on the dating scene after a long-term marriage and, yeah that’s a great point, thank you for making that! Sure. So really, the message then is you know don’t be intimidated to test the different sites, you can go on there for free. Have you found a benefit or, or any not paid, paid if there’s no skin in it, is one you know, the quality a little better than the other or not? You know people find love on every single site all day long and so some people believe if you make more of a commitment with money that you are going to be more serious, and and sometimes that’s a little more true, but OK cupid and Plenty of Fish are sites that people have a lot of luck in and they’re both free. But you know, just because a guy’s not paying doesn’t mean he doesn’t have money. I mean I just went out with a guy who I met on Bumble who drove up in a red Ferrari convertible, and he paid nothing for the app, so you know be careful not to judge. Well, and I want to get into more detail on that with you on another segment. In fact let’s hold you over for another segment, we will be linking to Sandy’s contact information if you want to contact Sandy directly, in the video description on our YouTube channel. Sandy thank you and we’ll be back for another segment! Thank you! Thanks again for watching! As always, if you liked this information please hit the subscribe button right here! Or if you’re on a mobile device there’s a link below to subscribe. Thanks so much for your support!